is there any daddies out there that dont spank because either their lil was abused an the daddy refuses to hit in any way or the daddy was braught up being hit/spanked and doesnt believe in it?
This was a question in a Fet-Life group (where apparently a spell checker would be helpful). The answers were interesting with my favorite being this:
I'm controlling by kindness and gentleness and never spank as punishment. Sometime for fun and play, and there, only soft playful spanking. I don't believe in punishment, and subs looking for pain are not for me.
So, my thought is this. Why spanking? It does seem (for me) to be the fastest way to feeling something (submission, centered, whatever), but is it only a shortcut?
Or is it really just about sex? (Not that that's a bad thing, mind.)
I am actually confused about this in much of the reading I do - so many TTWD couples have spanking for control or punishment and even as a necessity for women to release hormones, which isn't totally crazy to me, but at the end of the day, no disrespect to anyone's dynamic intended, I sometimes walk away thinking, Come on people, this is turning one or both of you on! Isn't it?
But maybe that is just because it turns me on.
In a related matter, MBS Brunch just posted on a very similar topic, so I will be looking at those answers with interest.
Special note to H, who reads this blog avidly, I am not suggesting any changes or any confusion about why we spank, I like what we do right now - this is just a general question on my mind.
Second special note to any Fetlife users out there, I think it would be more fun to have friends on there, and if you are there, can you let me know? I can't really friend my Facebook buddies. :) And I actually find it to be a helpful resource from time to time - so many good discussions (amidst some craziness).
Update: my fetlife account is kittythesubmiss, which I should have shared.